MCP's
Coachings File 06.30.05

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6.11.05 04:32 775 views! (dif. wording)
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[B]Hello and Welcome.[/B]

Thanks for showing up. That's cool of you.

We're about

There are some universal Truths about how people operate, how to deal with our Feelings and Emotions, and how to feel Connected and Loved in the most wonderful way.

that many people have NEVER experienced before in their lives.

[B]Understanding your Feelings and Emotions is the key to Taking Control of your Life.[/B]

You're already considered a friend.
part of the family.
one of us.
we're always open and looking for new friends.
let's learn and grow TOGETHER, ok?

We believe and model "Once a student, always a Friend!"

(don't read that as 'this guy's just a wimp just looking to make a buck off me.' ain't so. I have strong Boundaries and limits to what's ok with me... so I can be Open. we teach about having personal boundaries, and we teach how to find the internal Personal Power to enforce your boundaries, if and when needed. it's so cool... and freeing!)

So, [B]how can we help you?[/B]

Need to feel Better? or feel More?

Are you angry a lot?
Are you hurting (sad) over someone or something?
Feeling down / blue / depressed?

How about your past... any "Unresolved" issues?
or your Present, are you angry at a lot, or sad, or feeling depressed?
How's the Future looking / feeling? Excited? Discouraged? Blah?

Want more fun and aliveness and Joy?
Want to feel Alive and Alert and Good?
Want to be able to release your
We can help in all these areas.

All this is just about taking control of your feelings. That's all.

How would you like to be totally in control of your Feelings?
(not in a forceful, fakey or yucky way)
We can teach you how.

Would you like to feel more? (like Love, Passion, Joy!)
We can help there too.

I've been doing this for a long time (teaching for over 18 years now, almost half my life) and we've figured out some basic, simple, core concepts that definitely WORK. It's easy to tell it if works, just watch our kids. A couple thousand of us have been following these teachings for many years now. We've incorporated these tools into our daily lives - we've taught 'em to our kids, showed them how to use the tools and some even have their own kids to pass it along to. These kids are aware, powerful, secure, personally responsible, amazing. They are not "perfect" by any means, but when they screw up, they know who's in charge of fixing it... them.

we're happy to teach you how, too. ready?

btw, none of us are getting rich on this. Most of it is actually owned by a non-profit agency (2GetHelp, I'm the Director) and we insist on charging as little as possible so the everyday Joe or Jane can easily afford it. We commit to you that our stuff is always reasonably priced, and there's a 100%, no-strings-attached money-back guarentee on all our products and services.

Another way to look at it is that everyone pitches in to help. -- we are helping LOTS of people and asking so little, but if everyone pitches in where they can, we can really make a difference out there.

Here's our basic class. As far as I know, New Directions is THE most powerful way to make HUGE, lasting, core emotional changes in your life in only 1 weekend.
[URL=http://www.NewDirectionsWorkshop.com]New Directions Workshop[/URL]

The core of my knowledge is from experience. I was orignially taught and mentored some 20 years ago by a brilliant teacher, Bill Reidler, who's still teaching today. We went our separate ways many years ago, but we share a vision and a passion for teaching folks this life-enhancing emotional tools and concepts.

more good news --
The tools are all FREE.
The concepts are all COMMON KNOWLEDGE.
The beliefs can be found IN THE BIBLE and other works.

Once you learn and feel how to use your God-given emotional tools, that's it. It's not a scheme to get ongoing business for years to come. Once you're comfortable with a new, improved, more eyes-open, heart-open way of life, you graduated! We'd love it if you'd stay in touch but you're free to go out in the world and ENJOY YOUR LIFE.

To help spread the word better, I now offer personal coaching, support groups, teleclasses and more... and I'm almost done with an eBook called "Taking Control of Your Feelings".

The basic text of our teachings can be found in "Taking Control of Your Life" by my current mentor and boss (and hero), Doc Downing, PhD, LMFT.

I can be open because I know how to close.
Waving Wednesdays.

You'll learn about [URL=http://www.familycommcenter.org/Dear_Doc/dear_doc.html]Doc Downing's[/URL] popular "Taking Control of Your Life" textbook and workbook... and the profound changes we can bring to our lives by learning Doc's lessons. We're trying to expand that message in as many ways as we can... one-on-one, in classes, by writing, by giving more workshops, etc.

We feel compelled to bring that message to as many people as are willing to listen to us. Please join in the "Movement" of bring the Taking Control concepts to the world. There is much work to be done, and so many people to reach.

thanks for joining.
thanks for caring.
thanks for showing up.

- Matt Perelstein
(916) 599-8597
[email]matt@2gethelp.com[/email]
[url]http://www.TakingControlOfYourFeelings.com[/url] - teachings

- Matt

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she doesn't know, because I don't Train her to know.

We have to TEACH people how to BE with us!

It's our "job" with our kids, agreed? "Train them up in the way they should go." - bible
well, same goes for our spouses, and family, and friends, and co-workers, and even our bosses.
lesson: I just wrote a letter to one of my customers. I'm late on his project. I'm grovelling a bit, 'cause I want to keep the job, but I'm also being honest with him. He wants my best work, and I want my best work.

now THAT's taking Responsiblitity for your life!

It's good to know what we Can control, and what we Cannot.
I've heard people say "Hey, one thing we cannot control is others."

That's probably True, but…

we Can TEACH others how to be with us.
if they don't know, teach them.
if they're not meeting your needs, that's Your problem, not theirs.
if they're not Listening attentively, that's Your communication challenge.

know that

If they don't know, and we do, then it is our job to Teach.

6.10.05 02:59 doing Closets 2004 importing
(and a grovelling note to Dave Stauffer explaining how/why I dropped the ball and their data is like 30-40 days late.)
it's ok, tho. I'm ok with what I said, I'm ok with the decisions I made, and am making, and I like how I've created Trust relationships (I think this is how it's done).

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persistence is not just my strong suit… it's a survival mechanism.
it's the Only way I've gotten some things done.
and it’s the only way I'm still in some of committed relationships.

03:28 - what is this for, my obsession of time-stamping my writings (pity? some. martyrdom, a bit (ok, more than a bit, but less). record-keeping? yep. pride? definitely! learning how to push myself and what I can accomplish if I self-motivate properly? priceless )
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Don't Self-Medicate, Self-Motivate!

Learn the tools to Know yourself,
Understand your past, your upbringing, your Family, your HISTORY.
deal with it.
get it out of the Child's mind realm.

Part of your life is being run by the Decisions and Experiences of a young Child.

I guarentee it.

If you have not done any Healing work on your past, then I'm sorry, but you're Clueless.

You didn't develop your Personality, and your Values, and your Fears, and your Joys overnight, right?
They've been developed over time, and you've tried to be the best person you can be, right?

Cool.

But, some of this "development" was done while you were a small child, unbeknownst to you now. When it's put in the system in early and middle childhood, it Subconscious to you now, and it lives at very deep levels within your heart and your soul.

If sh*t happened to you as a child, you gotta "deal with it".

Those feelings that like kid had, and didn't get to express properly or at all, got STUCK inside his/her system.

Time Heals right?
I don't think so.

I've seen too many people, do too much healing and feeling and releasing and re-deciding, to believe that just ignoring it and going on with your life will actually get you all the Joy and Love you deserve. It just ain't gonna happen like that. YOU gotta make a conscious effort to HEAL YOURSELF, deal with your past, and become Aware of what your Inner Child went thru, what it was like for that little dude/dudette and most importantly:

What did you decide as a child, that is still effecting you today?

hint: you don't necessarily have to Change the decisions you made. Many are probably working beautifully for you (or you wouln't have survived this long.) But you do gotta know WHAT DECISIONS you made, so you can DECIDE or Re-DECIDE how you want to live your life, from this day forward. Unconscious = Out of Control. If you don't know 'em, you can't fix 'em.

"We can only make Decisions about that which we are Aware of."
- Doc Downing

Learn about your feelings and emotions. They will put you in control of your Life.

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these notes are gonna change some lives.
will be interesting to see how it all develops.
I am preparing.
it will come.
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Terri Strom, 6.3.5
create a Marketing Attack
strategic plans
sales / marketing guru
$1k/mo. pros, $500/mo. local
Org of Executive Development
work for public agencies
CPAs, golf pros, biz owners, Christian non-profits, lighting, RE, damn

Practical Applications
not happier
specific: can't start own biz, moving ahead in life, but limiting beliefs!
raise, new biz, moving ahead, better job
marketable

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Matt Perelstein - the Feelings & Emotions dude.
Would you like to Feel Better, or feel different, or feel SOMEthing?
Our feelings and emotions affect us every minute of every hour of every day.
Don't you think you'd better get to know what you feel, and how much, and how to manage it all?!?
Understanding your Feelings = Taking Control of your LIFE!
Matt's been teaching weekend intensive, feelings-based workshops for over 18 years now.
Visit his coaching blog and Learn how to Take Control of your Feelings and Emotions.
http://www.TakingControlOfYourFeelings.com

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Matt Perelstein - the Feelings & Emotions dude.
Would you like to feel better, or feel different, or feel SOMEthing?
Understand your feelings, understand your LIFE!

Wanna know WHO you are, and WHY you do some of the things you do?
Wanna Understand yourself and others better?
Want to be able to Manage your life better, emotionally?

Our feelings and emotions effect us every minute of every hour of every day.
Our attitudes, our intentions, our passions, our joys, our sorrows, our angers, our work, our success, our fears, our self-esteem, our judgements, our boundaries, our relationships, our happiness, our life experience -- there is no part of our lives that is NOT improved by learning more about our Feelings and Emotions.

As children, we made BIG decisions about our feelings -- which were safe to express and which not, how much was ok and which to hide and stuff away. As adults, we can look at those decisions and re-decide what, and how much, to Feel.
Out of Control Feelings = Unaware, unstoppable, unmanagable emotions (i.e. "drama")
In Control = Aware, identified, managed, understood, appreciated, encouraged, respected

If you don't know WHAT you're Feeling (a jumbled mess), or you're STUCK in one feeling (like anger or sad or depressed), or you feel kinda blaaaah and want more PASSION and JOY and LOVE in your Life, learn more about your Feelings and Emotions.

Feelings really are the Key to Happiness.
… and Love really IS the answer.

Taking control of your Feelings = Taking Control of your LIFE!
http://www.TakingControlOfYourFeelings.com

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Donna Mills, a certified Franklin Covey coach, has experience in both the corporate and the artistic worlds. After spending over 20 years in management and administration at a Fortune 500 company, she returned to school, graduating suma cum laude with a degree in art. Donna now combines several careers--she is a fine artist, she writes and edits newsletters and web-based training materials, and she coaches. All three of these activities reflect what truly inspires and drives her--expressing creativity through art and writing, and contributing to others by offering empathic, motivating partnership in their spiritual journeys. She facilitates her clients’ discovery of their own passions and purposes. Equipped with that clarity of vision, clients are able to define their goals, and then proceed to design and implement practical, meaningful strategies for their accomplishment. Donna serves as a Power Of My Way Journey Coach and is our new "master editor." She recently completed the final edits for "The Power of Our Way" and is helping us prepare to take it to publishers.

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1. What is your name, website and email address?
Matt Perelstein

http://www.NewDirectionsWorkshop.com
http://www.TakingControlOfYourFeelings.com
http://www.2GetHelp.com

matt@2gethelp.com

2. How have you had a mad passionate love affair with yourself?
Not sure about mad, or passionate, but I certainly love myself a LOT more than I used to!

- Taking better care of myself.

- Making clearer, more grounded, choices.

- Able to discipline myself to do what needs to be done, in the long-run (even if it ain't fun in the moment).

- I'm one of the happiest people I know.

So, yes, I would consider those to be Loving myself.

2. What have you learned in action recently and how has learning in action helped you think bigger?
I've learned in action by getting out there and doing it. I'm online on multiple sites. I'm on a weekly phone call. I'm in a blog. I'm the manager of an active emotional support group. I'm talking to people. I'm in front of people.

and through this, I have learned.

I've learned that my message really matters.
(I'm quite sure I've personally made a Major difference in over 1,000 people's lives!)

I've learned that I owe it to myself, and to the world, to bring that message out in as BIG a way as I possibly can!

I've learned some simple tools, attitude and strategies for growing and marketing my business in a way that WORKS for both me and my customers.

3. How has thinking bigger be fun - specifically? (What's fun about thinking bigger?)
YES, thinking BIGger has been much Fun!

Once I get past my fears and limiting beliefs, it really IS fun.

I get to talk to the people I like to talk to.

I get to talk about what interests me.

I get to experience my Passion of helping people take control of their emotional lives.

I laugh more, WITH my clients (rather then just in-between them).

I sing more, WITH my clients.

I play more, WITH my clients.

It's been most rewarding -- and I'm quite sure it will continue.

4. How has the Think Big Revolution become part of your life? Have you started your own Revolution? If so, please tell me about it.

Yes, thinking BIGger about everything.

Yes, I've started my own "Feelings Revolution"
Feelings really are the Key.
Love really is the Answer.

Online support group with weekly chat and weekly phone calls that I lead.

I'll be on the radio. I'll be interviewed.
I'll be published.

Personal Goal: To bring my message to at least 3.3M people by the time I'm 50 (5 years from now).

- Matt
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Dave Buck says that 75% of coaching clients make over $75k/year
Target market: those who are likely to buy from you initially, repeatedly, and at the highest profit margin
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It's not that I won't take computer jobs.
just take jobs that are Sellable profit-centers

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About the author
Thomas is the founder of Coach University, the International Coach Federation and TeleClass.com. He is currently the CEO of CoachVille.com, the #1 coaching portal. He has been coaching for 18 years.

"I know how stressful it was to marketing myself and my coaching services when I first started coaching.

"I was a wimp, basically, and terrified of marketing. Fortunately, with the help of mentors, coaches and even clients, I snapped out of it and went on to build a successful coaching practice.

"I am pleased to share these 1001 tips with you, and would like to thank the many coaches who are a part of CoachVille.com who have generously shared their many strategies and methods with me so that I can pass them on to you.

"Filling a coaching practice is work, but it can be a delightful process is you select the marketing methods that fit best for your personality and marketplace."

--Thomas J. Leonard
email thomas
visit personal website

http://www.fullpractice.com/defaultsample.html
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Collection of Thomas's logos that he was playing with… but they're awesome for coaching messages (and his sense of humour) http://www.thomasleonard.com/thomaslogos.html
http://www.thomasleonard.com/thomaslogos2.html
what ceiling?
rise above yourself.
turmoil stimulates.
movement isn't progress.
ego is good.
don't be drab.
discombobulation passes.
breathe from within.
be there. or not.
be annoying.
balance is overrated.
ADD or just caffeine?
Bigness is better.
breathe along with me…
clarity affords focus.
compensate for vanilla
Don't give up.
even edges can be nice.
fear is natural. be with it.
- Thomas Leonard, father of the coaching industry
Integrity reveals beauty.
just when you're done…
Opportunities drift away.
reflect light.
the sky isn't falling.
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get donations to Make a site that's JUST ABOUT Coaching!
It's in the news enough and people are hearing about it, but they know not REALLY what it is.
they know not that coaching can Quickly, Conveniently, Profoundly and Spiritually CHANGE THEIR LIVES forever!
It's our job to educate.
I'll manage the projects, for pay.
I manage the projects, the many projects.
from here.
in my little office in FB.
I'll finish PLS
I'll stick with CDF (pays the mortgage).
I'll finish everything else and phase out
and only take jobs that are going to create residual income (MarinCIL, Aztek) and finish the rest.
I will not advertise for new computer work at this time.

I'm a project manager.
building on to our house is now officially a Project
refinancing our house is a project
getting the land sold to Rexrodes is a project
being Dad to Rachelle is a project
being nice, supportive, money-earning Hub is a project
so, might be an art store!

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What is Coaching?
Coaching is a collaborative relationship that helps an individual, team, or group produce a desired result (and make it sustainable!) through a sophisticated form of teaching, expanding awareness, and designing environments.
Not sure what that means in plain English? It means, if you’ve got a goal, dream, or vision I can help get you there faster. And if you don’t have the goal, dream, or vision yet, but you know you’ve got one in there somewhere, I can help get you there as well. Call or email me to set up a free introductory session and we can determine if we’d make a good match for bringing to fruition what you’re working on or want to be working on!
http://www.rebeccasoulette.com/html/coaching_.html
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Membership site!
still
mostly free, but lots more for members
like VoyeurWeb and RedClouds
split windows right down the middle
lots for free, but the real juicy stuff is in under the pay site
advertise on each other.
operators on duty
MyPrivateArea
free teleclasses
I'll pay you to give classes. $50, plus you can build clients
at least 2 classes/day, everyday
coaches & therapists on duty, when you need them
gym model
gym, come in and weights are there.
pay by the hour? on duty. or LivePerson pay by window open

advertise grand opening
test phase
get folks scheduled for 2 weeks after G.O.

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here was my first stab at Thomas's idea of Solution-based Coaching. Thomas and Andrea were considering this model for Lifeville.com.
People Helping People The concept is that people don't go searching the web for "coaching", they go looking for "I need clients" or "control feelings anger" or "career promotion". They find us by keywords because we offer real, practical solutions to their existing problems. We offer various solutions in the form of classes, workshops, support groups, supervised forums, emails, etc., plus we go even further by giving guidance and support and love and hope (i.e.-coaching). Everyone wins. They buy because they realize they can't get these tools anywhere else. whatchathink? www.2GetHelp.com

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" Share the experience with as many people as possbile without trying to hawk some trinket. We sell possiblities and achievement, not snake oil."

- Mark @ dropdeadhappy.com

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SENT TO GAY 2.1.5
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Do you want more Control over your life?
there's a few things different about ND grads:

They are Happier
They are more in Control of themselves and their Lives
They are Freer.
They are less Stressed.
They have better/closer Relationships.
They have more Fun!
They laugh more.
They sing more.
They play more.

They are lighter.
They are freer.
They Feel more.
They Love more.
They LIVE more!

we're selling LIFE!

Want your Life back?
Want control of your feelings and emotions?
What to know who you are and where you're going?
Want to get rid of childhood blockages and limiting beliefs?
Want to feel GOOD about yourself, and your life?

how about making the Brochure, able to be a posted Flyer, as well?
or same look and feel?

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I want to have intelligent conversations about Personal Growth.
I want to meet with others who are trying to kick-butt with personal growth, and figure out how we actually work.

I feel that the

success
gain the respect of your peers
(CV)

(join MP for 15 weeks)

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" armed with the language of coaching, a person could … "

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< Interview with Dave, decision re: CV & DB, and matt's denial of being Discovered (no, thanks) 1.11.5 09:11
There's a lot of miserable people out there.
grabbing at straws, trying to stay afloat.
and a lot of them want to know...
what do you know?
what's possible?
what can I do with myself and my life?

Wants, no Needs
(usually in personal growth we like to say that we might Want something -- like Love, or validation -- and we don't actually NEeeED it. It's not like it's life or death or anything, right? wrong. It is for them. (see answer #2 below)
1. Looking for resources for whatever problem they're involved with
whether it's financial or physical or whatever hurts the most
2. They want a Human Connection
They want someone to tell them there's Hope
to FEEL like someone cares

depression
self-focussed
lost touch with others

mentally ill
got our number from a therapists
if you feel crappy, call them

drug and addiction problems, some want help and some help
validate that their life is shitty.
how bad their life is
confirm helpless and hopeless

if you want something different you have to do something different
Are you willing to

if they're not ready to change, they can have about 15 minutes of my time, to tell me how shitty their life is.
ok,

bored
bipolar Hi - Have to talk to someone

doctors, lawyers, professional people
may have
if you do something different you'll get a dif. result
are you willing to do something different?
are you willing to make changes, if you are, I'm willing to help you.

so me say YEAH, tell me what needs to be done, that I haven't tried and I'll do it.

NDW

Dave's happy to tell anyone who'll listen about the New Directions workshop.

Dave's been there, he knows, and like I said, he'll tell anyone about it who wants to listen.

"As for me, I worked on my addictions first
then got emotional help on top of that."

I just got out of the hosp, did 3-4 bottles of Tylonal.

6 months or a year
that's ok

Dave McPhail
____ Counselor
Suicide Prevention Crisis Hotline

the good part is that I have done most of it, I had to try it myself
been there, done that.

The most valuable thing about referring people to the class it that I've tried it -- and it know it works.
I've had to try and do it and I think that's helpful.
It's not like I'm trying to refer to something I haven't done because I've done it myself.
I think that really helps.

Dave, with all you know, you are one of the PREMIER personal growth

take them thru the drama,
I will be a film producer.
That could be the most powerful position in the world.

I could sell movie tickets for $3 and get hordes of people
(what?)

I will make movies.
I want to make movies.
instructional videos
inspirational stories
Lessons to learn

how about human drama
a person's in a situation
and they have dif. choices of beliefs / attitudes to take
depending on which they take, dif. choices are given.
but the situations would have to be 3D, surreal, .
that's me right now… surreal, or sir real
wow, that was amazing.

oh, and I was Told not to deal with CoachVille.
wow.
that seems like it'd be the chance of a lifetime.
but something's wrong.
no nothing's wrong, they're way ahead of me
I'm just looking for an easy ride to the top.
I wanna be discovered, right?
means I want to be pampered, taken care of, stroked, loved.

I was told not to deal with CoachVille, ever.
Many of my interactions with them have been flawed in strange and mysterious ways.
except for that connection I made with Dave the other night, on that call.
that was something.
he felt it and I felt it.

Dave could be my bro.
that's how it feels.

I can take you, dude.
I'll bet I can kick Dave Buck's butt.

(no offense Dave, luv ya, but gotta oppose you)

He will be my challenge, my goal post.
as we both grow to astounding heights, I will always be competition with CV.

Like the families on Dallas (but without the viciousness). But their competition and proving oneself to the other guy, pushed them to do things bigger and better (and way out of our comfort zone).

I often teach the headhunters what to say to the client, in my/our behalf.

the kind of anger used to win ball games
NOT the kind of anger used to win wars.
they are very different and should never be mixed.

Discovered
and I go looking for ways to 'sell out' to anyone who'd have me.
no.
not good.

I think I'll drop the thing about being discovered.
In fact, no thank you.
If I work for you, what do I lose?
maybe nothing. maybe everything.
money is a drug too.

matt's denial.
that's huge.

Now I am free to create my own empire.

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This was my vision of success… in some ways.
http://www.michaelport.com/
Michael is doing well.

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CV's R&D Forum
http://learning.coachville.com/dotlrn/clubs/coachvillerdteam2/forums/message-view?message%5fid=348996

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I sure wish I could finish things, tho. Let me give you a quick list of the projects I have Started over the last few years. All could/will be brought to Life with a little time, passion and TLC.
www.NewDirectionsWorkshop.com
www.TakingControlOfYourFeelings.com

www.MattPerelstein.com
www.2GetHelp.com
www.EucProducts.com

Taking Control of your Feelings, ebook
2GetHelp forum
2GetHelp online support group
shopping cart
affiliate program
autoresponder system
PayPal account

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Just a quick intro… http://easybakeweblogs.com/wp-admin/edit.php?p=235&c=1 1.11.05 03:59
Like Andy, I'm a computer pro by day, coach and trainer by night (hoping someday soon for it to be the other way around).
Unlike Andy, I'm a PC database consultant and programmer, specializing in desiging, coding and installing customized Microsoft Access applications (a nice niche, so far).
On the coaching side, my wife and I have been putting on an intensive personal growth weekend workshop for over 17 years now. We keep doing it because the concepts work, and work well. My blogs is all about what I have learned, and continue to learn, but doing this amazing workshop, and watching people go thru such amazing transformations.
I blog at night. I blog during the day (when I'm supposed to be programming). I blog early in the morning (it's 02:27 right now). I stay up all night at least 1-2 nights a week to blog and write and read and explore. I am driven by my need to understand and to teach people what we have learned from these many weekends of intense exploration and closeness. The basic concept is that learning about our Feelings and Emotions is really ALL that matters in living a happy, joyfilled, Loving life. It ain't the money, it ain't the number of friends we have, it ain't our family -- it's just us, what's going on inside us, our hearts, our heads, our attitudes and our beliefs. Managing our feelings, staying on course, finding good in life, living and loving wisely, making good decisions, keeping a good Attitude. That's what we need, and that's ALL we need. (oh, want to hear some great news: there is no charge ever, there is no limit to the entertainment, inspiration and intimacy we can experience, and there is no way anyone can ever take it away from you!)
(well, there I go, rambling on again ... I'll now copy and paste the above paragraph, to file it neatly away, to maybe be used later in a letter or a blog or a brochure.)
Anyway, thanks for stopping by.
If someone needs to hire some blogging help, send them to Andy.
Write On!
- Matt

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" Look for yourself and see what you find."
- mcp

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I'm more interested in Candle-making.
although they go great together.
create a small candle-making workshop
we could be a place where people come to relax, but they can also take a class.
have others come for creative arts

paint, or sculpt, or knit, or stained glass, or make a candle, or pottery wheel
help others do their craft, make it an entertainment thing
they just pay for the materials, or bring yer own

We need a Name for our place.
Redwood, or Euc Palace
Fern Grotto
The Woods
The Forest
The Fort Bragg Forest

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Paula, by the time I get back from Fresno, I want the storage shed re-arranged. You can make it into a Retail Store, accessible with a nice presentation, or it can be just storage, in which case, the candles need to be organized, and the rest of the middle section ready to be filled.
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Do you realize what God just did? He created a global-sized catastrophe to get our Attention!
He saw that us humans STILL haven't figured out how to get along, so he decided to help. He created such a huge problem - - more bodies litter the earth today than any other single day in history - - in an effort to get us to GET ALONG.
The World now has a common problem.
God created a totally natural disaster, for which no one is to blame but Him (He's even willing to endure the immense cries of anger and hurt and longing that people are expressing towards Him for taking their children and their loved ones)
The World is coming together to help the shattered survivors.
We are experiencing a huge outpouring of Love and Caring and Giving that will help bring the world to a better place, spiritually.
It is all part of the new Love Movement. (which was started by 9-11, imho).
Speaking of 9-11, I believe that event, tho' horrible in it's destruction, was the BEST thing that's happened to the USA in many years... spiritually speaking. Of those who perished... I feel for them, but I also think: How many people died in Vietnam? Well over 100,000, right? Did it help? Did it shift the world to become a safer, freer, more loving place? No, sadly, I think it hurt us and set us reeling backwards. That war divided Americans between pro- and anti-war. Dividing brings fear. Fear breeds Anger and disTrust. Anger creates more fighting. So what did we learn?
Now compare that to how many people died during 9-11. I don't mean to be flippant, but there were only a few thousand deaths. And this single event has done more, spiritually and psychologically to bring Americans together than any other single event in recent history.
If I could choose a way to go, it would have certainly been on 9-11... the impact it had, the power it carried, the love and empathy it created in us.
When people have a common enemy, or a common problem, they feel closer to each other and more attached, like they Belong. fit-in. comaradarie. team. we.
We don't get to decide what God's gonna do next.
It is our job to Listen to the lessons He is trying to give.
so:
Thanks, dear God, for all you've done for us.
You have spoken and we hear you. And we will strive to improve.
We WILL figure out how to carry out your will, I promise.
Until we do, please continue to guide us and remind us (as gently as possible)
Amen.

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SmartMatch Alliance trainers
http://www.smartmatchbooks.com/smatrainer.html

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In with a nice bunch as one of Andy Wibbles' clients
http://easybakeweblogs.com (lower right)

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Standards
1'05 Month and Year only (M'YY)
1.7.5 Dates, in text
01.07.05 Dates, in filenames
mperelst
7's
05:11 time, am, until 10:00, then 10a or 10:23a
3:34p time, pm

I need a nickname, bad.
it'll come to me
and it'll be something simple, and obvious.

Matt
Mat
Matress
MatAtak - no
DoorMat
PlaceMat
Mat, the kind that you step on
Hi, I'm Mat.
Matt-the-Loud
Mattasaurus Rex
MattMillion

but for me, it won't be a nickname, it'll be a Stage Name.
people all over the world will know that name.
and it will sell.
and I will sell.
and there will be much rejoicing.

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if you're afraid of someone, you're no fun to be around.
get some courage… even if it to be able to be around cool people.
cool people are seldom afraid.
if they are afraid, they're not afraid to say so
but they're not afraid much,
or at least not constantly.

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Dave, I think the way to go is to offer Solutions
again, people don't come to us looking for "Coaching"
they come looking for a solution to a known Problem.

therefore, we MUST offer our goods in a way that they can find them…
by solution and/or by problem

do you remember one of Thomas's last R&D memos,
he was discussing
a Dry Cleaning Service offering child care services as well, because that's what the busy parents needed
"it made me wonder if coaches are service providers or solution providers."
Subject: [CoachVille Member News] Are coaches in the service business orthe solution business.... or both?
Sent: Thu 2/6/2003 1:58 AM

oh, and one of my most treasured pictures of all time…
remember the old CoachVille Tour?
http://www.coachville.com/tourhowtocoach.html
dave, please don't ever let this page disappear(!)

Coaches are Teachers
Sell your boat
Interview with coach
determine where to best place ad(s)
give a quick course on how's the best way we've found to sell your boat on the internet.
design and create "ad campaign" (quickly and powerfully)
place the ads
could all be done in 24 hours
Place the ad on numerous sites
$50 now + 5% at sale
work with them to get it sold
We'll team with you to make it happen

Organize your Finances
Get through a Loss or big Letdown
Relocate and Buy a new home
Get you a new Career
Changing your Anger to Love
Reconnect with your Kid(s)
Release your Shame and Guilt

team with therapists and local help agencies
teleclasses
one-on-one coaching
in person workshops
read a book and work through parts the points with client

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Relationships with People, and Food
we set our relationships with dif. people, for dif. purposes, and with dif. rules, norms, boundaries, etc.

like with foods
I was so angry about the Carbs thing, because I had to say Goodbye to my good friends: bread, tortillas, pasta, cereal, PopTarts, rice, and on and on
and sweets: chocolate, M&M's, Snickers, 3 M's, etc.

I was angry. I was sad, at having to say Goodbye.

they were always there when I needed them, to fill me up, to keep me company, to not cost too much, to help feel Whole again, even just for a little while.

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Ken Horn, 1.4.4

Here's the scoop on coaching...
a coach can be your friend, cheerleader, leader, consultant, sounding board, encourager, listener, teacher.

Your situation is unique. People kinda understand, and they kinda don't, 'cause they're involved in their own muck, as well.
hiring a coach is about having a knowledgeable friend and confidante who is willing and able to focus only on YOU.
to help you make plans
to help you handle your stuff
to help you manage the kids
to help you deal with your ex.
to help you deal with your parents.
to make sure you're getting what you need.
to help you see clearer
to help you make big decisions.

with your ex being so unreliable, all the burden of the kids and your parents and your friends and your business and your family
have all fallen on your shoulders.
and I have been impressed with how you've handled yourself -- with dignity and class.
but I also see you very Alone with your problems.
want someone on your side?

here's the scoop.
both Paula and I do what's called Personal Life Coaching.
this means that we talk, by phone, once a week, times to be arranged between us (mostly at your convenience!)

We'll be in your corner.

For $199, you get 4 1-hour (or so) sessions per month, once a week.
if you get charged long distance fees, we'll call you.
we can talk via email or IM, if writing is your game.

I give a male's perspective, Paula gives a female's.
I'm a bit more "cut to the chase, let's get on with it" (while still honoring and respecting you)
while she's more loving, understanding and gentle, but amazingly wise and insightful.
you get to choose which of us you wish to talk to. (or even Both if the need arises)

Ken, I know this is a tough time for you, and I see you reaching out for help.
cool.
do it.
we'll encourage you to connect with lots of people and gets totally Filled up with Love, from a variety of sources, that work for YOU
(we don't do 'shoulds' and we don't cut on you if you don't -- it's your life, your agenda.)

but let us help you make a Plan, get through the hard stuff, make sure the kiddos are safe and make you're getting what they need.

whatchathink?
- Matt
(916) 599-8597 - call anytime, always with me and always on.
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posted on NCC, 11.26.04, 11:32pm
I teach people how to Take Control of their Feelings and Emotions.
I'd be happy to share with fellow coaches some of the profound, life-changing universal truths we have found!
We could schedule a call. I'd give info for a half-hour, then take Q&A after.
check the testimonials on our website…
www.NewDirectionsWorkshop.com/whatpeoplesay.html
... we gotta spread the word. This stuff Works!
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Doc speaks of Universal Processes vs. Personal Processes.
I keep forgetting about these.
we need to teach AT LEAST these.
That's where I get confused. People are already 'getting it', so they can understand their own personal stuff…
but I cannot assume that that means they understand the Universal truths.

Universal Truths
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- If you try to ignore or repress your Feelings long enough, they will come out without your permission.
- Awareness is the 1st step toward Change.
- Depression stems from repressed Anger.
- When you feel Guilty, you will set yourself up to be punished.
- People protect themselves in a variety of creative personality traits.
- Guilt is optional
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Words -> Thoughts -> Feelings -> Behavior
EMFB
4 Steps to Personal Growth
Logic -> Feelings Connection

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Thousands have heard me speak (entire weekends)
and thousands more have read my writings.
officially.
TCOYF.com - 10/26/04, 00:54

Total number of hits: 2536
Average per day: 9.26
Today: 18
In the last hour: 2
This week: 156

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Make a list of the Roads Not Taken, the things that coulda been, but weren't or didn't or missed or decided against.
whoa. sad, but healing. I still have sadness about stuff from past. Julie, Joni, Rick, Roger, Connecting Point, Melinda, Mom, Dad,
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There comes a point in your life where you HAVE to admit to yourself that you just don't know how.
As much as you fake it and as much as we think we know how others should do it,
we really don't know how.
Step 1: My admitted we were powerless over our Feelings and that our life had become Unmanagable.
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Step 2: WE CAME TO BELIEVE THAT A POWER GREATER THAN OURSELVES COULD RESTORE OUR
write the ND 12-step program
see for example: http://www.cio.com/archive/010102/shop.html

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PowerfulIntentions.com 11.24.4
My Current Powerful Intention:
Grow New Directions into a "movement", with centers across the country, tons of profitable, helpful, yet affordable offerings that are REALLY helping people have an improved Life Experience.

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I help people in these areas:
1. Become fully Aware and alert about themselves, their lives and their Choices.
2. Take full Personal Responsibility for their life, what happens in it and how they think, feel and act around it.
3. Know they have the strength, courage and commitment to Take Control of their lives, in every way they can.
4. Release unresolved pain, anger and hurt from the past.
5. Make unconscious beliefs conscious, to be fully At Choice.
6. Be able to differentiate that which they have Control or Influence over, that which they do Not.
7. Successfully be able to allow, release and manage their feelings and emotions
8. Are willing and able to stand up for what they believe in.

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The more you know, the better your best can be.
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Billy Graham was born during World War I and raised in the depression. He has spoken — live — to more people than any other person in the history of the world — an estimated 200 million people in 185 nations.
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Tom, we go to that space in between the thoughts, behind the thoughts
and that's where we Feel from.
whatever's there to Feel, we allow it. we honor it. We express it… and then we gently allow it to subside, on its time, if possible.
It's finding out the essence of where Feelings come from, and expressing from there.

I agree with the unspoken part you discuss.
However, I don't agree that it's all developed between ages 0-2.
I've heard some pretty nasty stories of what happened to people at any age. ANY and all unexpressed, stuff emotions must be Acknowledged, Learned from and Express and/or Released (I definitely think that many feelings can, in fact, be Released WITHOUT ever being Expressed, at least out loud. Sometimes complete Awareness of the "issue" is enough to get you to change your mind.

I try to go on the Less-Is-More strategy, but I keep failing.
I have sooo much in my head, it longs to come out.
It doesn't come from a place of Need -- I don't need followers and I don't need power.
but I would like some Riches.
In fact, I won’t stop until I do get there.
I talked to my wife about it tonight. I want ENOUGH money. I want PLENTY of Money.
it doesn't have to be an insane amount (tho I think it will be)
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I keep myself going by lots of little ways I reward myself.
It's an Aries thing.
Instant gratification.
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Jerry Maguire said it best, “Help me, help you.”

I'm here, ready to help -- Use me.
Sure, you gotta pay a little, but it will be WELL worth it, in the long-run.
Even 1 session can help TREMENDOUSLY!
After 3, you're a changed person
$95 an hour. pay for 3, or let us schedule payments, and you get the 3rd for half-price
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New Directions needs to be 2 Weekends
1 fer $199, 2 fer $299
I want to make enough at the ND classes that we can have a really good time during the weekends -- absolutely NO money concerns -- knowing everything's covered and handled and we have PLENTY if we want it.
If the motorhome breaks down, bad, we move our shit out and go get a new one (a nicer one). I think now that I will Always have a motorhome in my life. Sooo freeing.
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End of year promo:
New ND Pricing:
1 Pass per class, use it yourself or give it to someone you care about
1 certificate $299 each - a Darned Good Price! How much is it worth to Smile again!?!
2 certs $249 each - saves $100
3 certs $199 each - saves $200!
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we're looking for Players.
we're looking for Winners, or even wanna-be Winners (will train)
we're looking for people like us, who WANT IT, and WANT IT BAD!!
We will succeed, with or without you. sorry, but there are people out there begging for help.
We can make such huge changes in people's life experience, just be handling a few stuck Feelings, it's unreal.
Imagine having this incredible Rage built up inside you, because of horrible event that happened in your childhood. at least 20 years ago? more?
If you're boiling with anger, imagine how that will affect your Joy, your Love and your LIFE.
Now imagine that, in short weekend, you are able to LET GO of, RELEASE, DISPENSE, KICK OUT, DISPOSE of that HUGE Feeling, never to have it return, Ever. Sound good? Can do.
But you gotta want it, too. I can get excited as heck about your growth and healing, but if you ain't into it, or you’re not ready (for whatever reason), it's gonna be tough. (frankly, I can usually get thru to you, even if you're not into it. We're pretty good been doing it awhile.
" To do this exercise correctly, it will burn. Are you ready to burn, in order to make this team?
If you're not, that's ok, but I'm looking for people who are willing to hurt, to play for me."
- Katie Ford, 8th grade FBMS girls B-Ball tryouts (2 of 3)

we're also looking for Partners, and Fans, and Friends (you can never have too many friends - I know a LOT of people, that would immediately give me a big Hug if I ran into them on the street. No THAT;s a cool feeling.
Some people have said, right to my face, over and over "You Saved My Life." and then they hugged me. I like that part.
In a way, I've already succeeded, surpassing anything I could have imagined possible. I have done talks to 500 people, in schools, at Graduations, leading 20-60 people all weekend long well over 100 times.
(I'm not hot-shit bragging about this stuff - but I am definitely 'experienced' in a wide variety of semi-bizarre circumstances and environments. To learn from, to use, to inspire, to Enjoy. Thank you, Lord!

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I'm gonna be open about my sexuality, too.
I think people want and need straight talk, non-judgemental (no sick stuff, but we don't really care if you're gay or straight -- some of my best friends are gay and I refuse to trash them, even tho the Bible says I'm supposed to. Times have changed. WWJD? If Jesus say how in-love and happy many gays are, and how incredibly unhappy many straights are, I think he'd open his mind to that. Love is the answer, remember?
And everyone (yes, Everybody)

There are some basic core feelings that everybody has
Abandonment
Autonomy (control, power struggles, who's the boss)
___?

We all have Control Issues.
We all have Sex Issues.
We all have Protection Issues.
We're all Victims in some area(s) of our lives
We're all Ashamed of something in our Past
We've all Lost something we loved Dearly.

We're all Angry about something.
We've all been Hurt and Sad.
We've all been Depressed.

We all want to Heal.
We all want to Grow.
We all want to be Free of our Past.
We want to feel Brave and Powerful.
We want to feel In Control (not controlling, that's over doing it)
We want to feel In Touch with our bodies, alert and aware.

We want to KNOW.
To TRUST.
To Not be Afraid to LIVE!!

We will show up as who we are.
I will speak my voice boldly and unashamed,
yet compassionate and real -- always Real

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I'm going to be open about my belief in God.
I'm actually pretty Proud of it, and I'd like it if others believed in Something bigger than themselves, that they can't explain.

It's that true Male energy that chiquita was talking about.
the lead partner.
I move, they go with, as a partner, or gently pressure away
But I definitely Lead.
I can do that.
And I'll certainly never get Bored trying to fill THAT Mission!

To Lead, Write, Teach, Create - these are the ultimate Life Challenges

wow.

cool.

I'm ready, to at least try.
a New Direction
sweet.
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I love being able to stand up and launch my apple core out the front door, as far as I can.
and I can pee outside, anywhere -- how freeing.
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how about starting a CVCommunity re: Feelings and Emotions
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" It's not as much WHAT you know,
but the extent to which you have Resolved your own inner conflicts
that creates the foundation for success both in your life and in your coaching."

- Dave Buck, CoachVille
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do you like the way I write? (I do, now)
I am doing this very quickly, too.
the words scream out of my fingertips, cause it's still so bottled up!

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" This morning, I found a new role model." Tom Stone, http://www.InnerHumanDesign.com 11.18.4
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I have 4 businesses, and I'm starting another. They're all dinky, but they exist, so I'm showing up and doing my best… and learning, always learning. check my blog.
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I'm a Feelings expert.
I can tell you some amazing things about your Feelings.
I can help you Feel them.
I can help you Identify them.
I can help you Accept them.
I can help you Change them.
I can help you Release them.
I can help you Contain them.
I can help you Understand them.
I can help you Appreciate them.
I can help you LIVE them!
I teach ALIVENESS!

and I walk the talk,
so for some of the weekend, you can just sit back and watch and learn and take notes (if you’re so inclined)
We don't ask anyone to do anything, ever, that we haven't done and we're willing to do again.
You can trust us with that.
We, the pros, who've been doing this for 10+ years, baby, we have been there. All of us.
We've been in a ball, rolled up on the floor or the coach, rocking, crying our eyes out and releasing
some pain that'd been in there forever.
We have done Rage. We have "seen red" as they say. We have gotten so deep in our anger that we WERE nothing but anger.
And when it was done, it stopped. It just kinda subsidded… and disappeared.
and we're left with a feeling of Cleansing, of Peace, of a new perspective and a new Hope for how your life COULD Feel, if you could just get all this crap out of inside you.
The good news is, it can be done.
The better news is, it can change your life.
The even better news is, after you learn how, it's Totally 100% FREE of Charge.

Feelings don't cost a penny.
It's something I have total control over, 24x7, I am in charge, I am at choice and I am responsible.
No one can "control" your Feelings, only you can.
No one can take your Feelings from you.
No one can make you Feel anything you don't want to feel (emotionally)
You da boss.
The Master
The King.

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offer a quick analysis of emotional well-being
shorter questions, short analysis
like Doug does at www.yourvoicecoach.com
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Game to teach kids emotions, attitudes, getting-along skills.
http://www.oikosglobal.com/
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work with kids, with Rachel
2 things at once. be with her, teach others.
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Matt Perelstein, M.C. P.
Co-owner of 3 businesses:
Directions Unlimited, computer database consulting
New Directions, personal growth workshops
EucProducts, eucalyptus perches for birds and pets
DU
8 consulting customers, 1's a huge bank, 1's a state agency, 2 are non-profits
all remote, all Access-based
Income, almost $10k/mo.
mega-hours
Allen and Joel have plenty to do, at $30-$40/hr
ND
1 ND weekend every 6 weeks or so,
Avg. 13/class, ~$1k net
7 in Fresno & 2 in Paso Robles in 2004.
ART: 3 weekends in Fresno, 1 coming up in FB
www.NewDirectionsWorkshop.com
EucProducts
www.EucProducts.com
Ad in bird-talk magazine
8 orders: 4 perches, 3 leaves, 1 chew sticks ~ $350 total
biggest (only) expense is shipping, and they pay it
All sales going through PayPal
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One of Thomas's pages that has me and Paula on it -- WOW! --(found 11.9.4)!
http://www.fullpractice.com/vanilla/x98personhood.html
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Hi Tracy: Thanks for writing. Glad you like the site! I have a few sites but www.TakingControlOfYourFeelings.com is DEFINITELY my favorite!
Tracy, life coaching is the BEST way I've ever heard of to get real, close, personal advice, guidance and encouragement! (the feeling we always wanted from our parents, but had a hard time getting). Actually, I mostly LISTEN, but in so doing, I can help you find ALL kinds of FASCINATING and Interesting things about YOU.
A life coach is:
- your friend - your advisor
- your confidante - your consultant
- your cheerleader - your mentor
- your play-maker - your conscience
- your safe place - your guide
Working TOGETHER, you will gain clarity, Direction, "light-bulb moments" and break-throughs that could take years to accomplish by other means.
Here's the $199/month program:
- We talk once a week for the first 3 weeks of the month. The 4th week is Practice Time.
- In between times, I'll be available to you by email, sometimes via IM or if you really have something pressing, or short, just call me. I can't always talk at that moment, but I'll get back to you as soon as I get a break.
- During the calls, we will talk about YOU. Your dreams, your goals, your desires, your successes, your unhappinesses, your issues, your life. (I'll interject stuff about me, when I feel it's appropriate, or the feeling gets real BIG in me, but mostly it's all about YOU.) Can you imagine feeling really SAFE with someone, so you can totally be yourself and let it all hang out? SAFETY and ACCEPTANCE are amazing feelings which I can help create for you.
At times, I will need your permission to bring up observations, or something I am feeling coming from you, that I'll need to check out with you. In other words, I'd like your permission to be Powerfully Honest with you. When I feel like you're going in the wrong direction, or doing something that doesn't match YOUR Values, I'd like your permission to "pull your covers"... in a positive, loving way, of course... but that is one thing you've hired me to do, right?
I can promise you this... I will ALWAYS BE RESPECTFUL of you and your wishes... and YOU get the BOTTOM-LINE say in what we discuss and where we go. Remember, we are focusing on YOU, helping you become the most awesome person you can -- and enjoy the ride in the meantime!
Whatchathink?
- Matt Perelstein
(916) 599-8597 mailto:matt@2gethelp.com
Read more about Coaching below...
Attitudes and Beliefs
To get the most our working with me, there is one thing I highly suggest you are ready to come to the party with, and that's Personal Responsibility. There is no more powerful belief in the universe than to believe that YOU HAVE CONTROL OVER YOUR LIFE!!!
I AM Responsible for my life -- That's the best news I've ever heard!
- It is MY life.
- - - It is MY fault.
- - - - - It is MY responsibility: How I act, and feel, and think, and live, and be
That's a truly Wonderful, Wonderful Thing - - to know that I can DRAMATICALLY influence my own Life Experience by just learning more about myself, deal with my issues, feel my feelings, examine my behaviours and beliefs, and come to Understand what makes me who I am! That way I CHOOSE who and what I want to be, Now and in the Future! YAHOO!!!
- I'm a really Happy person, personally, and I encourage that in others, BIG TIME! I encourage Feeling your Feelings, facing your fears and pushing the limits a bit, so we can learn, grow and Experience all we can out of our short lives.
- I have a toolbox full of Assessments, Quizzes, Quotes, Stories, and other Resources that I'd be happy to share with you. Once we get to know each other, we'll see what will work best for you, your timing and your desires.
- If there is ANY WAY you can swing it, I am going to encourage you to come out to California to attend our intensive weekend workshop called New Directions (http://www.NewDirectionsWorkshop.com). My wife and I have been teaching it for over 17 years now, and we have the most amazing, life-changing stories from hundreds and thousands of graduates (ME included)! We have found some ways to truly Breakthrough feeling barriers and "stuck beliefs" that give people the power and confidence to go out and totally Take Control of their Lives!!
- You will tell me about YOU: what you're feeling, what you'd like to feel, what you're doing to get there, where you're stuck, where you are Proud of yourself, where you are not. We'll talk about Attitudes. We'll talk about Behaviours. We'll talk about Intention, and Communication, and Growth, and Anger, and Depression, and Guilt (oh, and did I mention Personal Responsibility?!?)
Doc says: "We can only be where we are. And we'll stay where we are until it's time to change."
If you JUST want to whine, or complain, or try to get me to feel sorry for you (well, I might, 'cause I'm kind-of a softy) but not for long, ok? We all feel powerless and overwhelmed and even bitchy sometimes and dammit it's sure nice to have someone to moan to... that won't judge me... or abandon me... who'll just be there to Listen, when you need a safe place to vent.
I can be that for you.
On occasion, I give you assignments, but we'll tailor those to your lifestyle (and make sure their both enlightening and Fun!).
I'm a really Happy person, personally, and I encourage that in others, BIG TIME. I encourage Feeling your Feelings, facing your fears and pushing the limits a bit, so we can learn, grow and Experience.
At times, I'll need your permission to bring up observations I make, or something I am feeling coming from you, that I'll need to check out with you. In other words, I'd like your permission to be Powerfully Honest with you. When I feel like you're going in the wrong direction, or doing something that doesn't match YOUR Values, I'd like your permission to "pull your covers". That is one of the things you've hired me to do, right?
I can promise you this... I will ALWAYS BE RESPECTFUL of you and your wishes... and YOU get the BOTTOM-LINE say in whatever you do. Remember, we are focusing on YOU, helping you become the most awesome person you can -- and enjoy the ride in the meantime!
Don't:
- believe this is therapy, it's not. I've been teaching for many years now, but I am NOT a college-trained nor board-certified therapist. If you feel you need, or want therapy, I say DO IT! Make an appointment today. Make it so. Do something to learn about your life. You don't have to hire me as your coach, but if you want your life to improve, please DO SOMETHING!
- fall in love with me. I'm married, with lots of kids and grandkids and I love them all! Hopefully, that situation ain't gonna change any time soon. Now, with that said, we can get as close as we want to, knowing full well, up-front, where are Boundaries are set (another wonderful life lesson!).
- think you're stuck with me. You're not. We'll go month-by-month, payable in advance, and we'll go as fast or as slow as you want from there. We won't be entering into a long-term contract (although there's a price-break for multiple months). Fire me anytime. If we have a yucky month, and you feel like you didn't get diddly squat from our calls, I will either give you the next month free, or give you your money back, your choice.
- get too down. Dealing with our feelings can get Heavy at times. I try to keep it light (but not too light that you're not learning anything). I've found that we can take feelings Seriously and give them the respect they deserve, without letting them bring us down too far. Sometimes we'll take a break to laugh and play or sing. We manage our feelings, they don't manage us.
- become Dependant on me. I can be helpful, but my opinions and beliefs and values take a back-seat to YOURS. If you're not clear, or strong, on who you are and where you stand on things, I can help you with that. But don't start feeling like you NEED ME. You don't. You managed to survive this long with me, and I sure hope that continues.
- be intimidated by me, or try to impress me, or win me over somehow. We will strive hard to create a very Equal, respectful, honest relationship between us. That's one of your goals -- to get BETTER RELATIONSHIPS, right? Clients of mine have shared that that was one of the main things they "got" from coaching with me... that they could have a good, clean, positive, equal relationship with a man. a great learning opportunity!
wanna try it for a month? click here.
http://tinyurl.com/4wuhp or via PayPal at:
http://tinyurl.com/526p6
thanks again!
- Matt
(916) 599-8597
From: Tracilyn [mailto:Tracilyn@i2k.com]
Sent: Saturday, September 18, 2004 11:06 PM
To: //matt@2gethelp.com
Subject: Hi Matt

Hi Matt,
I'm Tracy writing from Michigan. Your site is terrific... it makes me want to pour my heart out to you but you must be swamped with emails so I won't... but i'm curious about the life coaching topic. If you have a chance at some point, let me know about it okay? I definitely need a neutral strong person who can just step in and say "do this, don't do that" etc.
Thanks so much,
Tracy

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" Less Crazy, More Sane.
Less Different, More Same.
More Power. Less Blame.
More Joy, Less Pain."

- mcp

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I'm more grounded, less frantic.

More excited, less afraid.

I'm more aware, less in the dark.

More smart, less naïve.

More calm, less scattered.

Less upset, more uplifting.

Less scattered, more flattered.

Less criticism, more encouragement.

Less pain, more Joy.

Less annoyed, more ALIVE!!
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i g2g bye bye xoxoxoxo love u much rachel

8-29-04
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www.klove.com
___Tips ? positive news, like the greeter at Wal-Mart who sings over the PA.
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" American Wedding" a new reality TV-show... on the positive side.
a Christian wedding
Smalley Marriage Institute
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I believe that those poor people who lost their lives on 9/11, did so for a wonderful cause. Never in our history have so FEW people died, and it have THAT much positive impact on our country! From that event, we have become More Open, More Loving, Safety has become More Important, We are More Aware of our Families, and our Friends, and the stuff that MEANS something to us.
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I’ll start.
Before I took ND, I was painfully shy. We had moved a bunch, I had lost lots of friends, and I was unwilling (unable?) to connect with people.
I actually had a fairly decent childhood in that my parents are still alive, still together, never beat me or abandoned me (at least physically).
I grew up knowing so LITTLE about myself, my feelings, others and their feelings…
it lead to tons of sadness and pain for me… a divorce, lots of lost relationships, living a life of aloneness and frustration.
that's what's caused me to be so Passionate about the New Directions teachings.
We learn how to Connect.
How to "Be With" ourselves, and others
We understand how we work, and how others work
so we can be compassionate, and get along.
If you don't have friends and family around that are there for you, we'll teach you how to make friends and build your own family.
If you do have friends and family, we'll teach how to Enjoy them More, feel Better about being around them, and get Closer then you h, and
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My really BIG picture, is that we build a whole community, a school, for folks to learn how to Take Control of Their Lives! The TCOYFeelings part, will be my specialty, but there is room for so much more! Many others can help in so many ways, we just offer some of the Products and Services, while others market theirs. I tried coming at it from the BIG, global side, but I buckled under the weight. so now I back up and handle the Small side... the me side... to get my act together, get my offerings in place, then re-visit the BIG side of things.
We'll coming at it from Both sides. Me - classes, coaching, blog, writings - 2GH, NDW from bigger side.
If I don't come about it from a "I need the money" intention, to a "You can take it or leave it"... it's much more inviting to others.
8.20.4
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I know it to be true because … well … I just know it to be true.
You don't know until you know.
You don't even know you can know until you know.
It’s fun to know.
… and most rewarding.
Ya know?

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part of my reluctance to charge higher prices is an unwillingness to Commit, on my part, to giving Quality goods and services.
If we only charge a little, then if people are disappointed, they are not THAT disappointed.
If we charge a lot, people will expect more -- and that feels uncomfortable to me -- 'cause then I am 'committed' to giving Quality.

strange, 'cause we mostly DO provide Quality, anyway… but it's not Valued that highly, 'cause "I" don't value it that highly.

yep, it boils down to ME, again, as the limiting factor. dammit.

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Matt is the guy to call when you are tired of your life feeling out of control.
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Matt Perelstein, author of the blog "Taking Control of Your Feelings and Emotions", is on a mission to teach the world how to understand, accept and express their emotions, for a healthier, happier, more successful life. A successful workshop presenter, teacher, writer and computer programmer, Matt and his wife Paula have been teaching a powerful, life-changing weekend intensive for over 17 years now http://www.NewDirectionsWorkshop.com They both LOVE to help, guide and assist people in "breaking-through" their limiting beliefs to FEEL their PERSONAL POWER and realize that they have far more CHOICES in life than they thought! Check out Matt's teachings at http://www.TakingControlOfYourFeelings.com, subscribe to a series of emails that will teach you and inspire you to feel, even the scary stuff, mailto:2GetHelp.com-38847@autocontactor.com, or just give me a jingle today at (916) 599-8597.
8.6.4 03:14 HB to PR, 13x! \/ = 8 - ))

Matt Perelstein, author of the blog "Taking Control of Your Feelings and Emotions", is on a mission to help people understand, accept and express their emotions, for a healthier, happier life. A successful writer and workshop presenter, Matt and his wife Paula have been teaching a powerful, life-changing weekend intensive for over 17 years now, and LOVE to shows people how to "break-through" their limiting beliefs so they can FEEL their PERSONAL POWER! Check out Matt's teachings at http://www.TakingControlOfYourFeelings.com and subscribe to a series of emails that will teach you and inspire you to feel, even the scary stuff, mailto:2GetHelp.com-38847@autocontactor.com.
Matt Perelstein, author of "Taking Control of Your Feelings and Emotions", is on a mission to help people understand, accept and express their emotions, for a healthier, happier life. A successful writer and workshop presenter, Matt and his wife Paula have been teaching a powerful, life-changing weekend intensive for over 17 years now, and LOVE to help people "break-through" their limiting beliefs so they can FEEL! Check out the workshops in California at http://www.NewDirectionsWorkshops.com and Matt's teachings at http://www.TakingControlOfYourFeelings.com.
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What lights me up:
- Seeing people "break-through" from limiting beliefs to truly FEELING their Unlimited Personal Power!
- Laughing and connecting with my wife, my kids and my grandkids (actually, and my parents, my sisters, my brother, my friends, my students, etc. etc)… I just love to connect, and I love to Laugh! There are a lot of differences about people I like, but there is one thing similar about all those I love --- they all make me Laugh!
- Building successful businesses, both online and in-person, esp. those with Passive Income possibilities!
- Living my life purpose (and making a living at it!)
- Playing sports (or doing about anything) at 100% of my capabilities. Feeling completely 'used up' and 'spent' afterwards.
- Coming up with very cool Concepts that could / will make a difference in people's lives!
- Being excited about getting out of bed in the morning!
(posted on http://mitchmeyerson.blogs.com/playbig/2004/07/your_passion_in.html#c1731000 7.22.4)

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Cover Letter Bullet Points
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- 15 years experience working directly with Microsoft Access (every version, since 1.1)

- Involved in numerous data conversion projects, both from and to Access including:
CA Department of Social Services (DSS), working with Teale
CA Department of Developmental Services (DSS)
CA Department of Forestry and Fire Protection, (CDF)

- Excellent documentation capabilities, including:
Status Reports
End-User Manuals
Conversion Logs
Testing Procedures
System Documentation

- Self-motivated, knowledgeable, reliable, on-time, team player

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http://www.the15secondprinciple.com/ab_au.html

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I am one of the best Access developers I have ever met.

I've personally written over 100 applications for the State, Counties, Cities and Businesses large and small, in every version of Access since 1.1, so I think I know it fairly well by now.

Call me for your Access needs. I'll help you, guide you, or do it for you.

write today.

mailto:Matt@2GetHelp.com
(916) 599-8597

(posted on Craigslist 6.2.4)
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We did ND profitably before.
How? what worked?

We had a
We had a following of people who believed in us and were happy to spread the word.
We had no brochure or flyer (did we?)
We had an awesome enroller (Jan), who was NOT on commission ($3k/mo.)
Believed that this was part of their duty, to give back!
Dave McPhail
Tommy Brandeberry
Tom Hill
Cathleen Grant
Syd Conty
Linda Day
Leslie Leggio
Christine Helman
Doc Downing

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Power, Emotion, Intensity, Humour and tons of LOVE and HUGS!
with Acceptance, Hope, Determination, ALIVENESS.and JOY!

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do photo collage of us
me, pkp, rachel, scott, etc.
show much happiness!
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mcp.com
example of Dear Friend letter
http://www.ninaeast.com/
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I've been teaching the life-changing New Directions workshop for over 17 years now about Taking Control of Feelings and Emotions, and now I am here to share this awesome (God-sent) experiences with you... hope it helps!
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Doc says I have "paranoia tendencies, with passive aggressive behaviours"
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Meet Matt Perelstein

Perelstein combines a unique blend of "attitude, with heart".
He's all about getting results, making your life look, and more
importantly Feel, the way you want it to. It's a tricky balance
between selfishness and selflessness (taking vs. giving), but it
can be done… and it works. If you can truly learn to "take
care of yourself" and "take control of your life", you will be
able to GIVE so much more, and for more years.

Matt Perelstein runs the New Directions Workshops
across California

Power, Emotion, Intensity, Humour and tons of LOVE and HUGS!
with Acceptance, Hope, Determination, ALIVENESS.and JOY!

Matt has been working with the widely-published therapist, author
and leader in the human potential movement, M.K. "Doc" Downing, PhD, LMFT.
Doc is the author of "Taking Control of Your Life" textbook and workbook,
" Anatomy of a Victim" and "Doc's Quotable Quotes".

Perelstein's high-energy, "whatever it takes" style allows his students
to feel important, validated and safe to feel whatever they need to feel.
" If I can accept your feelings, maybe you can accept them too."

combining the Taking Control series

of Our Feelings and Emotions.

- Matt

commit to the goal for the purpose of closeness

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start, no finish.
Doc says:
No more than 7 projects at a time!
may need to break down projects into sub-projects
Always finish each project!
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Matt's Projects, as of 4.5.4
NewDirections classes
ND
ART
SetMeFree
Paso, FB

Websites
2GetHelp.com
TakingControlofYourself.com
NewDirectionsWorkshop.com

Writings
blog
sites
ND brochures, flyers, ads

CDF
safecom
data integrity
start of fire season (by May 1)

PLS
Roll Call
SRs / Invoicing

Home / Motorhome / Property / Storage
clean-nicity
landscaping
water issues

Family
time with Paula, Rachel, Spot E. Boy

Health
R-ball
eating right, Rachel eating right

Money
Income: Staff-Tech, ND, SetMeFree, PLS

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What about the Picture of me? I need one, or many?
collage?
the many (happy) faces of mcp
check out our world!
have Lots to show!
Sarah & Bri, class, CDF
how we make the best of things
Lori, Sydney - friends
we know we're friends. We've talked about it. We know we have issues… we've talked about 'em.
we KNOW that we are loved, 100%, unconditionally, incredibly… 'cause we've talked about it!
If you and your friends, or you and your family
Picture you, sitting calmly with your family, everyone's nice -- and someone (maybe you) bring up a tense subject -- Dad, the other day, when you said ___, that really hurt my feelings. It kinda even makes me feel unloved when you do that. (some tears, sadness) Dad rushes over and kneels down on the floor in front of you, and holds you, tight, and strong, and BIG like no one can but him… and he whispers "I'm sorry punkin. I didn't mean to hurt you. Not ever."

is that what it's like at your parents' house? (it wasn't at mine either, but it's moving in that direction now… closer all the time).
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The formula is:

COCKY+FUNNY

Cocky alone is not attractive. Arrogance repels people like bad breath. But a FUNNY arrogance... Ahhh, that's the stuff that miracles are made of.
from http://www.datingdummies.com/archive/article_9-17.htm

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I want to feel Proud, and LARGE, and Purposeful.
Believe in something that I could stand at the head of the train, or in the middle of the grocery store, or standing up at the mall and TELL people... LOUD and PROUD... Would that be such a Feeling > >>> >>>>>>>

Complete Lack of Shame.

wow.

(like in an emergency, too!)

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Educating your Mind, as well as your Heart

__ = New Life

I'm all about Education
and awareness
and good
and love
and joy
and closeness
and openness
and having tools
and having choices
and being cool
and calm
and happy
and dealing with feelings
and learning about emotions

and togetherness
and partnering
and helping each other
and finding ways to be helpful

and abundance
and properity
and all that is good
and learning to fight
and choosing our battles
and learning to Win
and Winning!

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- matt@2gethelp.com
" The Emotion Coach"

working with singles, couples, retirees, pilots, …
well, anybody actually, who wants to learn more about, and learn to better Control, their feelings and emotions.

Helping people make their life look, or more importantly FEEL, as GREAT as we can make it!

Hire me to stand beside you
To support you
To encourage you
To boost you up
and cheer for you!
to stand beside you when you weep
to be that loving voice you need now and then

As a Coach, I become your emotional partner.
When it's time to Celebrate, I'll be there!
When things get tough, I'll be there.

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what do you want, sir?
money
to be discovered - plan for it. go for it.
what does that mean?
I want someone, with bucks, to Realize how amazing it is, what we are doing at ND
to pay us to write, to teach, to speak, to show, to lead
I want to be up front, on the stage, in front of the world… teaching, showing, entertaining, guiding, smiling!
yep
I want to be wanted.
I want to be known.
I want to be wealthy.
I want to be happy, and laugh, a LOT
I want to be healthy
I want my friends around me
I want to know I am making a difference
I want to impart what I know
I want to be in demand
I want to be able to turn them down, for a change.
I want to build community
I want to connect people together
I want to show them that togetherness IS the way, not protection
I want to show them what Safety feels like
I want to show them what Freedom feels like
I want to help them create all this in their own lives… together, or alone
I want to help them with their fears
I want to relieve some of their anger
I want people to know how incredible it feels to feel like you are totally in control
I want you to connect
I want you to connect, with me
I want you to connect, with each other
I want to feel connected to you, too
I want us all to love
I want us all to laugh
I want us all to be there for each other
I want us all to sing together, and dance together, and Hug… a Lot!
I want our sexuality to be public and proud (and safe!)
I want people to feel safe with each other

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When writing, be aware of the 3F's
Feel
Flow
Format

=;->
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- Get a Clue.
--- Get a Grip.
------ Get a Life!

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" Giving ourselves to each other"
" to rest our head."

- Creed, "Who's Got My Back"
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my job is to lead people
acknowledge where they are at, and direct them to take class or tell someone else to take class.

I don't want to get consumed by it, but directing people is a good thing… per Robin's book.

try it… could be a life-changer for me.

here's how it happened to me, and here's how I see it happening in other people:
on specific ISSUES, there is a progression,

From Bleeding to Healing
stop the bleeding - if you're really hurting, you gotta get that OUT of your SYSTEM. Somehow.
trust me, it's coming out anyway… but not in ways you might want it to be!
like blasting your family or your co-workers, or your friends.
like getting in arguments regularly
like being an
guys become a-holes, women become b_'s
you're unhappy. you're unfulfilled. you're Frustrated. you've friggin' Angry Aaaahhhhhh !!!
you can feel it boiling
you can spit nails
you face is all hot and you blood's pumping hard.
you're angry.
and you don't know what to do with it.
you are ready to explode, but How? Where? When? O n Whom?!?

Learn ways to:
Be Aware of What You Feel

when I see the bold, I kinda say it louder in my head. more like a Command. a little louder, a little stronger, if done well, it becomes Very Loud. so learn to use it wisely.
see robin's ebook for great example

from negative, to wishy-washy, to more wishy-washy, to confused, to aware, to conscious, to understanding, to In Charge.
in pain, then Increasing for a short time, then radically decreasing - as we become aware of "issues", face 'em head on, beat 'em, and come back up to live life, more in control, from here on.

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MCP Resume
Taught ND for 17 years to over 1,500 participants
Successfully coached others to improve their lives, some radically!
Completed 100's of successful database consulting projects
Raised a wonderful daughter, to age 12 -
people love and like her, natural helper, soccer and basketball, school treasurer.
Stayed married to Paula for over 14 years
Certified MCP, MOUS
Graduated CSU: BS in Business Management and Industrial Relations
Edited 2 books: TCOYL and TCOYL, workbook
Started a website that has received 230,000 hits as of Dec. 03
Created lots of friends - many like me, some even love me.
My 4 grandkids (5,7,8,10) love me lots, and respect me.
Am healthy and strong (some belly, but still in real good shape)
Work from home, when I want to
Own a brand-new house on 13 beautiful acres in the woods on the coast
Have an active blog going
Like myself pretty well.

The new Matt
Coach - by phone, or email
Blogger
Workshop Instructor

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My DMV record is clean.
My arrest record is clean.
My credit is pretty clean. (well, not anymore)

I am gainfully employed. (well, not much anymore)

I own a small business.

I am director of a non-profit.

I am a so-so husband.
and a good father.
and a great grandpa.

I'm a pretty good friend.

An inspirational teacher,
and a motivational coach,
and a decent programmer.

yay.

I help people learn.
I help people see.
I help people deal with it.
I help people's attitude.
I help people's love factor.
I boost people's attractions.

I help people identify.
I help people belong.
I help people relax.
I help people chill.

New Life

I'm all about Education
and awareness
and good
and love
and joy
and closeness
and openness
and having tools
and having choices
and being cool
and calm
and happy
and dealing with feelings
and learning about emotions

and togetherness
and partnering
and helping each other
and finding ways to be helpful

and abundance
and properity
and all that is good
and learning to fight
and choosing our battles
and learning to Win
and Winning

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=;-> uncle sam
:-) mo
:-) smiley

animate these,
bubble them out, add color, 3D-ness
still tell they are characters on the keyboard, but they become living characters
(oh, that's a whole story in itself, ey?)

I teach people about feelings and emotions -- how to identify them, how to accept them, and how to express them in a productive fashion, to they can understand people and have better relationships. relationtiontiontiontion (I like typing that, very fast) relationtiontiontiontionrelation

I help people learn what they need to know about their feelings and emotions. That they weren't taught anywhere else.

I help people identify where some of their problems come from.

matt@2gethelp.com

"The Emotion Coach"

working with singles, couples, retirees, …
well, anybody actually, who wants to learn more about, and learn to better Control, their feelings and emotions.

I help people make their life Look, and more importantly FEEL AS GREAT as they want it to!

Hire me to stand beside you
To support you
To encourage you
To boost you up
and cheer for you!
to stand beside you when you weep
to be that loving voice you need now and then

As a Coach, I become your emotional partner.
When it's time to Celebrate, I'll be there!
When things get tough, I'll be there.

Yes, market toward women!
Definitely!

Money = Freedom
Success = Security

We're focused in the wrong area. Yes, we need to be successful in order to have enough money to live on...
but the point is NOT the money, it's the feelings that the money represents. If you have lots of money, but don't feel Safe, or Free, then there's still work to do.

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You have to get rid of your guilt, in order to be successful!
be Results-oriented!

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