3 Steps to EQ

1. Awareness
2. Acceptance
3. Action

1. Awareness
Always the first step to learning, because until we’re aware, there isn’t anything we can DO about anything.

“We cannot make logic decisions on things we’re not aware of.” – Myron Doc Downing

2. Acceptance
You can fight it, or deny it, if you want to… but nevertheless,

“It is how it is. Exactly as it is.” – Wayne Dyer

3. Action (or NOT!)
Here’s where our choices come in. Now that you know, and you know that you know, what are you going to DO about it… if anything? Doing nothing is always one of the choices (and often a good one… though I think most guys think otherwise).

“The path to success is to take massive, determined action.” – Tony Robbins

I started thinking about where to start with EQ…
if I only had you for 1 lesson, only 1 message
what would it be?

There’s one thing about EQ that, if missing, nothing works! There’s one BIG decision you need to make before you start this work, and the biggest/hardest lesson of everything here.

Ready?

We call it emotional responsibility (ER).

Do people make you angry? Do people hurt your feelings? When bad things happen, do they make you feel bad?

No, they don’t!

Outside forces, NO MATTER what they are… do not MAKE us feeling ANYthing, emotionally. People can very definitely hurt us, mame us and break us, physically.

Nobody can “make” us feel anything, emotionally, without our permission!

People don’t make us angry. We make ourselves angry. More specifically, our angry thoughts make us feel angry feelings.

This is very GOOD NEWS!
In fact, it may be the BEST NEWS you get today, or this whole week!

We are in charge of our own life experience.

We get to CHOOSE whether we are happy or miserable
…. every second of every day, for the rest of our lives!

Try this…

“I hereby proclaim that I am 100% totally, completely RESPONSIBLE for every one of my thoughts, all my feelings, and especially, my actions and behaviours! They are mine… I created them, I can understand and learn from them, and I can manage them, effectively, to make the very best decisions I can, for myself and for those I love and care about.”

How’d that sit with you?

Hint: Without emotional responsibility, we’re a whiner, blamer, victim… no bueno!

Each-1-Teach-1-EQ:
There’s PLENTY of bad news in our world, every day… but ER is GREAT NEWS… so you can share it with excitement (#ExaggerateEnthusiasm), optimism and joy!

Nudge people, especially kids, with…”Did you know, no one has ever made you angry?” (pause, wait for objections).
Nope, no one makes us angry… WE make us angry!
… so we can make us un-angry, anytime we wish,
no matter what.

EQ-101:  THE STUDY OF YOU!  101 EQ Lessons in 101 Days, Day 1

EQ is the study of the most interesting topic there is… YOU. Businesses, children, mental health, families, crime, even war – all benefit from the magic of EQ. Let’s spread the GOOD NEWS — EQ is changing the world, from the inside out (the only way it really can change!).

Follow me, for the next 100 days. I will be posting an EQ lesson, tip, quote or concept every day based on my research, writings, and over 30 years of teaching EQ. My aim it to lay it out as simply and clearly as I can – and for that I’ll need your guidance and input.

Please give your feedback, so I can make these lessons as powerful and effective as possible. (I still get my feelings hurt, pretty easily, so be gentle. Don’t tell, suggest. And please don’t give negatives without adjoining positives).

Together, we need to get this information out to the masses, in a way that is understandable, memorable, interesting, effective and (in my opinion) fun!

Most importantly, pass it on. That’s the POINT here. The goal is to have a billion people practicing EQ in the next 23 years #1BEQersBy2039, so let’s all introduce at least 1 other person, ANY other person, to the magic and wonder (and the price!) of EQ!

#EmotionalIntelligence — #EQRocks — #DoUEQ

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If you don’t like people…
. if you don’t trust people…
. . you’re in trouble.
. . (not them, you.)
. you will probably isolate.
you will probably push people away.

… and you will probably be lonely and alone.

Learn to deal with your own feelings and emotions.
. Let go of your pain, anger and disappointment.
. . Let yourself shed the hurt from your past.
. . (distant or current past, doesn’t matter)
. . . Feel -n- Release your negative emotions
. . then fill yourself back up, with positives
. like love, acceptance, peace and joy
Consciously. Mindfully. Wisely. On Purpose.

… and learn to enjoy, smile, play and connect again.

We need people.
. Whether we like it or not.
. . Let’s learn how to feel, and how to heal.
. . so we can learn how to deal, with people.
. and live happily, successfully and fully connected,
from this day forward!

#EQRocks! — #FeelIt2HealIt — #SpinIt2WinIt